 I have a secret.
I play the piano and I’m not terrible at it. But, most people in my life today have never heard me play. I don’t record myself. I don’t perform for others. I only play for myself. My boys have grown up hearing me play though and sometimes ask me to play. Yesterday my family visited a large music store so my youngest could pick out a guitar for his birthday. My oldest and I wandered into the piano room and he asked me to play piano. I instantly resisted: “No. People will hear me. I haven’t played in a while.” Then my 14 year old said to me what I often say to my clients when their inner critic creeps in: “so what?” What’s the worst that could happen? How bad could it actually be? And so I did it and I messed up but I had fun and I’m glad I let him push me out of my comfort zone. When your inner critic steps in and tells you that you aren’t good enough, aren’t perfect enough, might make a mistake, might regret something, try asking yourself “so what?” We all could be a bit more like this 14 year old who just sits down at a piano in public and plays because it makes him happy.
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 Hey mamas, I have a message for you.
You can’t do it all. You can’t be perfect. You are going to walk into a room and forget why you even entered it. You are going to forget about a gymnastics class. You are going to be late for your kid’s bus. You are going to think you responded to that text but you actually didn’t. And you know what, it will all still be ok. You are human and the weight of the world is on your shoulders. Every day you wake up and hit the ground running because you have people that depend on you. Their needs and their wants fill your head each day on an endless loop. Most days fitting in a shower, brushing your teeth, or even peeing alone feels like a luxury. And I promise you that all those Mamas you see on social media with their on point makeup, immaculately done hair, spit up free clothes, and gym fresh bodies are far from perfect too. We all have our struggles. We all have those things that keep us awake at night with dread and worry. We all carry shame. So let’s stop pretending that we can be perfect. Let’s stop pressuring ourselves and each other to be perfect. Instead let’s meet in the middle with our beautiful imperfections and show each other and ourselves a bit more grace. Let’s remind each other that none of us are perfect. Let’s show each other our imperfections. Let’s talk about them and name them instead of feeling shameful about them and trying to hide them. Let’s light each other up with our realities instead of dimming each other with the heaviness of perfection. K? (Follow Changing Perspectives on Facebook.) |
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