Can I let you in on a secret about friendships in adulthood?
Sometimes they are really freaking hard.
Like, really freaking hard.
But so often the friends we have in our adult years are the only thing saving us from hitting rock bottom.
The truth is that even the strongest friendship bonds are not forged in stone. No, just as life is ever changing, friendships will always ebb and flow.
Sometimes your closest friends fade away into the background of your life.
Sometimes background friends somehow become part of your inner circle.
Sometimes brand new people enter your life and become the friends you never knew you needed.
Sometimes your heart aches because it misses the friendships that used to be but are no more.
No matter where you are in your adult friendship journey, don't overthink it and don't dwell in the past.
Instead, hold on tight and ride the friendship wave.
Welcome the ones that find their way to you.
Send peace to the ones who fade away.
Love the friends that are there right now.
Illustration: Art to Remember
Relationships take effort and need to continuously be renegotiated over the years. These articles explore friendships and romantic partnerships - both their importance and how to improve them.