One of the hard truths of life is this - sometimes you will not reach your goal.
You will be focused.
You will want it badly.
You will do everything in your power to get there.
It will be right there in front of you.
And it will slip through your fingers.
Because sometimes your best just won’t be enough.
Maybe the goal will be unrealistic.
Maybe the circumstances will be unfair.
Maybe it will just be beyond your control.
Whatever the reason, there will come a day when you won’t reach that goal that is so important to you -
and it will crush you.
It will break your heart.
It will make you feel defeated.
But you have to remember this - it won’t matter.
Because you are far more than one moment in time.
Because that one goal won’t define you.
What will define you will be your ability to shake it off, learn from it, and decide to keep moving forward anyways.
And that will matter far more than any goal ever could.
The other night I was mindlessly scrolling through Facebook when a post caught my eye.
The post talked about how despite it being summer weather still for the author, it was September and so she was going to lean all the way in to all things Autumn.
"Good for you!" I silently cheered as I read the post.
But, then I kept reading and quickly found myself shaking my head.
The author went on to state how September and October are for fall things, November is only for Thanksgiving things, and Christmas things can't be celebrated or acknowledged until December 1st.
It was a rule, she said.
Listen folks, none of us need that kind of negative energy in our life.
If you want to decorate your house for fall on June 1st, go for it.
If you want to wait to decorate for Christmas until December 10th, go for it.
Life is too short, too stressful, too structured, and too messy to put stringent parameters around the things that make us happy and bring us joy.
So, do what makes you happy and let others do what makes them happy. Your neighbor's Christmas tree in October or your online friend's pumpkin throw blanket in July really don't impact you or your own happiness.
You don't need anyone else's permission to go ahead and lean in to fall right now, or dive head first back in to summer, or pull those Christmas lights out of the attic, or even go ahead and put out some red and pink hearts for Valentine's day.
Live your life.
Find your happy.
Let others do the same.
Now, more than ever, we all need a little support to help get us through the rough spots. With all the pressures of life, it can be a challenge to find time to not only take care of yourself but also to truly understand who you even are anymore.