What are you saying to yourself without even knowing?
⠀⠀ I explore this concept a lot with my patients when I first meet them and they almost always deny that they do it. But, then we get to talking and I start to hear them say things like: ⠀⠀ “I’m so crazy.” ⠀⠀ “I don’t know why I do this to myself.” ⠀⠀ “Ugh. I was so stupid.” ⠀⠀ “I’m so pathetic.” ⠀⠀ Each time it happens, I encourage them to lean into it, to turn that inner negative voice up for a week and really listen for it — not to believe it-but to understand where and when it comes into play. ⠀⠀ Most times, they are shocked to then find that they have a pretty constant loop of negative self-talk running through their heads almost everyday. ⠀⠀ The first step in stopping that loop is to identify it. ⠀⠀ Do you have one? ⠀⠀ Listen to your thoughts next time you find yourself beating yourself up. ⠀⠀ Would you say something like that to a friend? ⠀⠀ Probably not. ⠀⠀ So, why is it ok to be so mean to yourself? ⠀⠀ Whenever you catch yourself doing it, counter that negative thought with a positive one. ⠀⠀ Stop abusing yourself and start loving yourself.
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